What we can achieve together
I will accompany you on your journey to transform pain into learning and growth. Together we can look at your past and your present and shape your future.
Looking at your past can be a stepping stone on the path to understanding and learning and becoming the creator of your life. Your past is your source of understanding and potential wisdom that will support you in shaping the now and your future.
I will help you recognise the things you can shape and influence and the things you may need to learn to accept.
We will be allies in making your present and your future something that you shape yourself.
What you should be aware of
Therapy and coaching are learning processes, and all learning can be difficult, painful, scary and hugely uncomfortable, and sometimes you may even feel worse than you did before the sessions started. You may not want to attend appointments because you feel you have nothing to say, because you are resisting or because things don’t seem to be progressing. ‘Patience is the mother of wisdom’ so be patient, loving and gentle with yourself and the process and address your discomfort.
Sometimes having coffee with your friend, is all the therapy you need.
What you will not get with me
I will not change you or your partner (no voodoo). I don’t have a magic wand (but you may have one hidden somewhere 😉 ). I won’t promise that everything will be fine. I can’t do the work or the process for you. In the end, you have to want it and do it yourself.
I also don’t promise that I am the right or best therapist for you. If I’m not, don’t hold it against me. Keep looking! Otherwise, I am the one who is the best person for you here and now, because I am here. You are the one who can make the most of this session today.
What it takes from you to really get something out of our work
Your commitment and your integrity. You’re paying for it, so make the most of it. If you need to cancel, even if you’re not really sure why, do so truthfully and well in advance (otherwise I’ll have to charge a no-show fee, see fees).
If you feel distrust, resistance or anger, then we may be on a good path, bring it up. Before we begin our session, take some time to think about what you want to address.
If there is homework, DO IT!